Building Confidence

Many people look to others to build their own confidence? While some folks are very encouraging others can be discouraging. By resting our confidence or self worth in the mouths and actions of others we set ourselves up for discouragement. Another person’s opinion of who we are and what we do is just that; an opinion and it is not necessarily accurate. Advise and opinions can be helpful and we all should be open to listening however we also need to determine how reliable that opinion really is.

Confidence measured by our own truthful observation can help us build our self-worth but we must be truthful and fair. It is great to have a mentor to bounce ideas off however we all need to trust ourselves a little more when deciding what is healthy. This honest self-assessment of what is right for us starts with evaluating our real needs. If we lack confidence the next step is to slowly build on it through tackling small challenges. We all need to feel like we can achieve some degree of self-reliance.

We can choose anything to start with. A good place to begin with is to follow through on the promises we make ourselves. If we take steps to complete smaller commitments we soon build enough confidence in our ability to achieve goals and tackle the bigger desires in our hearts. These are our desires not that of others and so we need to always keep this in mind so as not to distract us from fulfilling our dreams. Always be considerate of others but be kind to your self too.

Feeling Valued Is Tricky

Many people struggle in life trying to be heard. How many of you feel that none really knows the real you?
It is hard to be accepted for the real person inside. Feeling valued is tricky. Should you be judging yourself by the attitude of others? Ah I hear you say “ of coarse not” But do you? For me knowing that God sees who is side and loves me has been the key to my peace. No matter what others do or say I know who I am and I am OK with her.

Remembering that people react differently and that doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with your value to be loved. It can often be their lack of self-value that makes them behave badly toward you. Showing more love to others, making that extra effort can improve relationships tremendously. It is called Grace everyone. Grace is a wonderful word that should be kept in the forefront of our minds. Maybe then the world would a lot more love in general.

What about you, what do you think?